Relationship Enhancement: Improve Your Relationship By Using Affirmations

Posted on November 12, 2008 
Filed Under Healthy Relationships

You may have heard the old saying, “Declare a thing and it is so.” The sad fact about relationships is that people complain about them rather than saying positive things; and, statistics show that these negative declarations do indeed come to fruition. More than half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce; and those that don’t are so often the source of misery and suffering that we tell more jokes about unhappy marriages and marriage conflicts than practically any other subject. Our jokes and complaints become self-fulfilling, self-perpetuating prophecies of relationship failure. But you can use this same principle to reshape your relationship for the better – declaring what you want rather than simply complaining about the obvious. Try using affirmations to create a better relationship.

You can dramatically improve your relationship by simply affirming those aspects of your relationship you love, as well as those you wish to improve or strengthen. Rather than complaining that your wife nags, relentlessly meet her nagging with a calm smile while loving her and being grateful that you have such a kind and lovely wife. This might seem ridiculous, and you may even feel sarcastic at first, but if you stick to this plan diligently, you will be amazed at the transformation you can make in yourself and in your relationship. Likewise, if you are irritated at your lazy husband, bless your husband and be thankful for all the help he gives you – while loving him and complimenting him on all he does. Most people, when they feel good about themselves, will ultimately seek out opportunities to be helpful and perhaps bathe in that light of gratitude and praise again. Try it and see for yourself.

To affirm your relationship, simply write a description of how you would most love your relationship to be, and frame it positively as an affirmation. In other words, write it as if you are grateful that it is already that way in reality; and repeat it that way while feeling the gratitude in your heart. For example, you could affirm, “Thank you for my wonderful, loving, caring, fun, exciting, prosperous, and empowering relationship. I am grateful for the abundant love I am giving and receiving daily. Life is great and full of wonderful opportunities; and I am grateful!” You can be more specific, of course, and use terms and ideas that have meaning and generate positive emotions for you. It might not be easy at first; but just keep heaping on the love and affirmations, and you’ll gradually create a life and relationship you love. And, if you’re thinking, “But that’s not how my relationship is,” or, “but that’s not working for me,” then just keep at it until you start believing in your affirmations. And, when you start believing in your affirmations, you will either create or attract the conditions you desire.

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