10-Tips For Enhancing And Strengthening Your Marriage

Posted on November 12, 2008 
Filed Under Healthy Relationships

Improving your marriage is easy; but it does take effort. If you want your marriage, or any situation, to change, you must learn to do different things. There are certain things you can do in a relationship that will weaken it, and certain things you can do that will strengthen your relationship. The secret to relationship success is in learning to do the kinds of things that improve relationships and strengthen or empower the participants in the relationship. Here are ten-tips for enhancing and strengthening any marriage:

1. Learn to let-go of your attachments to positions, judgments, and outcomes. Practice release, sacrifice, and flexibility in order to maintain harmony.

2. Be spontaneous. Do new and different things. Keep your relationship fresh, new, and exciting by creating new opportunities, adventures, and surprises.

3. Pay attention. Start noticing details in your partner’s appearance and actions. Listen to all parts of conversations and discussions. Notice changes and things that are new.

4. Take walks with your partner. Hold hands, enjoy the scenery, go new places, explore, and see new things together.

5. Say something nice to your partner every day. Give compliments, express love, gratitude, appreciation, and admiration as often as possible. You benefit when you boost your partner’s self-esteem.

6. Learn about your partner. Notice their likes, dislikes, and favorites. Find out who they are and where they are coming from so you can meet them there.

7. Remove distractions and create quality time. The more time you spend playing golf, watching television, doing crossword puzzles, or playing on the computer, the less time you’ll have to invest in your relationship.

8. Practice speaking only kind words about your partner. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Reframe negative thoughts and words into affirmative statements of praise, release, and forgiveness.

9. Do something nice every day. Open doors, pick flowers, or find some other way to be of service to others.

10. Express affection by nurturing with physical touch. Massages, back rubs, foot rubs, scalp, hand, and arm massages, and other ways of physically nurturing your partner helps create a strong bond and positive chemistry between you and your partner.

Think about your relationship and how you want it to be. Then, take steps in that direction every day. You can use this list, or make your own; but, if you want your relationship to change for the better, you should be sure to methodically and consciously change your thoughts, words, and actions for the better. When you are consistently doing new things to improve your relationship, your relationship will consistently improve!

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