Marriage: 3-Essential Ingredients For a Successful Marriage - Incentive, a Willing Partner, & LUCK

Posted on July 17, 2008 
Filed Under Conscious Relationships, Healthy Relationships

You need more than a marriage certificate and good intentions to have a successful marriage. Commercial television programming and advertising would have you believe that finding a husband or wife is the difficult part of marriage; but, with over half of all marriages ending in divorce, it seems much easier to get married than it is to stay married. But there are things you can learn that will help you make your marriage a success.

There’s no reason the honeymoon has to end. Of course, there are several reasons honeymoons end; but they really don’t have to. Imagine if you loved the rain, snow, sleet, sun, heat, and cold; you’d never be able to blame the weather for your bad moods or ruined days. Likewise, if you want a successful relationship, you must learn to appreciate all parts of your relationship; and that goes for both partners. You can’t simply blame others for "bumps" in your experience - to be successful, you have to learn and grow from them. Relationships require skills that must be learned and practiced; and there are three essential ingredients that any relationship needs to succeed - or even survive.

Essentially, you need 3-things in order to build a successful marriage:

1. Incentive

2. A willing partner

3. A little L.U.C.K. (Love; Understanding; Compassion; & Kindness)

People need some incentive to take marriage seriously enough to make it work. We all need a reason to do anything we do - even if we don’t know what the reason is. A reason is simply a thought - conscious or unconscious - that starts the chain-of-events that ultimately leads to action and experience. Our reasons usually include making something better or different than they currently are. To do something requiring great effort, we need an incentive. In other words, there’s got to be "something in it for me" in order for me to put energy into "it." To make a marriage work requires incentive; and to put work into a marriage requires incentive, as well. A powerful incentive for working on your marriage is the realization that all marriages end in divorce or death; the quality of life between now and then depends on your input.

A willing partner is another absolute must-have if you want a successful marriage. Most people get married for the wrong reasons; and most people don’t know what to do with a spouse once they catch one. They say, "The family that prays together stays together;" and, if you understand the nature of prayer - thinking - you understand that, if you don’t have a common vision, goal, or destination, then you’re moving in different directions and heading to two different places.

A little luck never hurt anyone; in fact, Love, Understanding, Compassion, and Kindness (LUCK), are absolutely essential to a successful marriage. Without understanding, people often go through life with no more awareness of other people’s needs and desires than they had as a child. If you want a happy marriage, you need a happy partner; and the best way to make a partner happy is to be kind, considerate, and loving. Also, compassion goes a long way toward building trust and intimacy. Consider these ingredients carefully; and, with a little LUCK, maybe you’ll create a relationship worth being in.

Pete Koerner is the author of The Belief Formula: The Secret to Unlocking the Power of Prayer. The Belief Formula is a look at how you can use ancient wisdom and modern scientific awareness to learn how to use your mind to reclaim your health and create the life of your dreams.

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